From our Senior Warden...Change and Transition

                For the last ten years my grandchildren have spent much of their summer with me while their parents worked.  For much of that period they wanted me to play with them in the pool and in almost no time they learned to swim through a combination of swim lessons and exposure to the pool.  It was by watching them that I learned to swim not too many years before I turned 60 and it’s been marvelous to be involved in their evolution and to continue mine through observing theirs.  But alas, this summer they’ve much preferred playing on the computer and their androids and spending time with their friends and watching Netflix to time in the pool with their Grandma.  School started this week and I feel a sense of loss at their leaving but I’m already excited about the fall and anticipating what’s to come     

                In just a few days we’ll have the Kickoff Barbecue to welcome in the 2016-2017 Sunday School year. The Surfrider class (3rd -5th graders) will begin an exciting new curriculum called Spark where they will be introduced to scripture and Jonathan will be leading a youth confirmation class this fall in conjunction with Sunday school (more to come)    The Finance Committee, the vestry and various committees and individuals will begin work on the 2017 operating budget the middle of September so our finances are in order for the new year come January.   A special parish meeting is planned for Friday, October 21st to vote on a proposed change to our By-Laws (more to come on this, also) and will be followed by the 3rd Annual Souper Celebration.  Please save this date to come and enjoy wonderful fellowship, a delicious bowl of your favorite soup served personally by your vestry and our sincerest thanks to each of you for all you do for Holy Cross.  The Annual Stewardship Campaign will commence on Sunday, October 23rd with the official conclusion of the campaign coinciding with the Annual Parish meeting on December4th where new vestry members will be elected.  

 In the midst of all this regular business we will begin the process with the Bishop and his staff to find the right person to help us move from our current lay led leadership model to a more traditional clergy led model.  How can we prepare ourselves for this process?  What will happen when?  There seems to be more questions right now than there are answers.  The following article on Change vs. Transition  provided me with some insight into better understanding and navigating change whatever its origin might be.   


 Change vs Transition


 “There is a time for departure, even when there’s no certain place to go.” -- Tennessee Williams


The words change and transition are often used interchangeably. In truth, they have very separate and different meanings.


Change is a one-time occurrence: we change jobs, change clothes, change living arrangements. Change is a shift from one person, place or thing to another.


Transition is the ongoing process of dealing with a change. Transition is letting go of how things were and embracing how things might become. 


Transition is a shift from one state of being to another.


Change can be self imposed or imposed upon us. Buying a new home is usually a change we impose upon ourselves. Moving into the new home is the change. Learning to let go of the way things were is the transition. In moving to a new home this could be dealing with a new route to work, missing our old neighbors, learning to use new appliances. Until we are comfortable with the new and willing to let go of the old we are in transition.


The death of a loved one is a change imposed upon us. Not only did we not choose the path we are on, but also we aren’t even sure if we can see a path. We are confused, frightened and sometimes feel powerless to accept the change thrust upon us. We can’t move because we are unable to let go of the past and can’t see what might be ahead. As we learn to accept that the old is no more and that we must embrace the new, we are in transition.


Sometimes transitions are not created by change (or at least not by change we can identify), but, by an internal shift in our being: a shift that tells us something is different in the way we feel about certain people, places, or things. Transition can sometimes precede change. When we decide to look for a new job, we don’t just wake up one morning and decide to make a change. 


Rather, it is usually an idea that has been formulating for some time (transition). We may have been unhappy in our job for a long time, wanting more responsibility, a higher salary, a new boss or even a new career path. When we have accomplished the “idea” time we are ready to make a change.


So far it looks as if our lives are in a continuous stage of transition and they are. With that said, it is important to develop the skills to live in transition. Transition periods can be the most productive periods of our lives, if we understand that letting go is not dismissing what has happened. Transition is, instead, the period in which we accept what has happened and we search for the path to follow forward. That search can lead us to new and creative ways to live our lives.


About the Author

Beth Densmore is a Personal Life Coach who offers support, inspiration and motivation to those who are in transition and want to achieve a goal. For more information and more free articles like this, visit her site at



Yours in Christ,


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